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Sunday, June 25, 2006
i read an article in the papers some time ago. the subject was on "pruning the friendship tree".
in short, the gist is this. people change along the way of life. common points and interests might wane. people drift, and the writer wrote about how she decided to make a clean break from people she was no longer close to. there was no point in continuing ambiguous relationships that wavered between friendship and acquaintancy. so every few years it's time to take stock and trim away the fat, so to speak.
as for me, i've been using the same number ever since the first day i got a handphone. i just deleted many numbers of people whom i will no longer ever be in contact with. you could call it moving on in a way. clearing out the trash, since they no longer figure.
friends walk with you through your life, seeing you through the good times and the bad. they are associated with landmark events, and taking them out of the equation blurs its significance. the question here is, is it right to chop off people like that? or to just let a friendship die a slow death. where phonecalls, smses and meetups dwindle to the point of zero, along with awkward greetings on the streets. got quite a bit of that.
family can't be chosen, but friends can. every friend we make is a conscious choice. there is only so much emotional energy and time that one can invest in others. instead of spreading the love around thinly, would it be wiser to concentrate ourselves on less. when you spend time with some, wouldn't it be annoying to be reminded at the back of your head that there are people you haven't seen in a really long time? maybe the truth of the matter is, you're just not into each other that much anymore. remember the excuses? too busy, not enough time. honey, you're no longer integral.
cut off the unsightly branches that only weigh yourself down. the leaves are wilting. branches aren't the most important parts of the tree anyway. one can survive without so many and new ones grow all the time, but roots are essential. i refuse to uproot old roots, even if they might be decaying. at least they are still grounded in the permanency of the past. these must never die.
if it were up to me, i would be a shrub and not a tree. i want to be full of roots, and do away with the branches.
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3:48 pm
Saturday, June 17, 2006
if anyone still reads this nowadays, and really wants me to update, then drop me a tag. i will oblige, if the demand is there.
if not, it's time for blogicide.
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12:05 pm
Wednesday, June 07, 2006
debilitating between two domiciles, today i feel like doctor jekyll.
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12:58 pm