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Saturday, October 22, 2005
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wedding dinner at shangri-la was good, loved the personalised service that the waiters gave. loved the wine too, now i don't feel like sleeping. and it's 4am while typing this. i'm torn regarding my feelings on this. on one hand it's always inspiring to see a couple get together and embark on a journey together, not to mention the good food. on the other hand, what you need to endure to enjoy the gourmet and the fuzzy feelings is a shitload of other rubbish.
the thing about family get-togethers and gatherings of such large proportions is the rehearsed and rehashed greetings, trite conversations and stiff smiles. and they'll somehow find a way to turn the heat on you. and it's ALWAYS about marriage. wedding dinner -
"oh, soon it'll be michael's turn right" chinese new year, during the angpow segment -
"wah soon you cannot collect hor, time to give back right" please lor, i haven't even had a relationship before. and for crying out loud i'm only 18. if you count in NS and the U the earliest i'll be working is when i'm almost in my mid-20s. it really wouldn't be that fast.
if ever. looking at the first sister (who isn't married, and wasn't allowed out on the whole groom-claiming-bride-by-doing-weird-forfeits-and-surrending-red-packets ritual thingum) it's kinda.. scary. to end up that way. my first aunt is a spinster too. but OH WELL maybe it's just a girl thing. so as a firstborn son i have nothing to worry about! -beams- i am a
Ho Chi Kuei! after all, "girls are maggots in the rice" hurhurhur i know my
Woman Warrior!
in line with all this romance talk, am totally enamoured with Billy Joel's
The Longest Time now. the a capella harmony is flawless, and it's the ultimate feel good song. although it's a bit too saccharine, looping it tends to get one loopy in love indulging in romantic fantasies. not that that's totally a bad thing. escapism is good, Virtual Reality (haha, eugene.) can be a very pleasant narcotic for the pains of life every now and then. just remember not to get addicted on it. if you understand the anaesthetic effect, you'll be safe. don't overdose, cos a numbing of sensations doesn't mean a detachment from the surroundings. rather, it's holding on to an acute understanding of that environment whilst being absolutely dumbed and dulled from experiencing the harshness of it.
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just got back from my mom's cousin's daughter's tea ceremony. or to put it more simply - my cousin (once removed? twice removed? is that the term for it?). almost wanted to take and post up a picture with the roasted pig, what with the pretty flower on its head, propped up and resting nicely on two juicy oranges. and continue on with some remarks, just to be outrageous since i know some people get really riled up about such stuff.. but you know, i don't want to be jailed. i am after all, of perfectly legal age.
it's quite freaky actually. can you imagine people taking photos of your naked body after your death as though you're some novelty? roasted, no less. i don't really understand the tradition of sending the pig's head and tail back to the groom's home. that one just baffles me. but i like the rest. the tea ceremony, the long noodles with sweet hard-boiled eggs in orange-red gravy. very symbolic. these chinese people are smart, yes they are.
and TALKING ABOUT photos of your naked body-
talk about disturbing.
anyway, back to the topic. i don't know why people choose ugly people to get married with. or uglier than them relatively, at least. although it doesn't apply in this case. why settle for something lower when one can get something better? it doesn't make sense on the basis of equity. and even on a practical standpoint, it's one huge question mark too. or more an exclamation mark. hell, both. the children are going to look terrible! i mean, in the wild, it's always survival of the fittest. mating calls, rituals etc. the female only mates with the best male there is out there.
so why should it be any different for humans? i guess it's that thing they call love. which transcends everything, looks and all. supposedly, anyway. i wouldn't know. i've never been in love before. which is a very annoying topic. overly done, and the only thing discussed at such occasions. especially now that one's of that kind of age.
need to study now, there's still a banquet later. will be back with more.
bernie says:
watching Lan Yu
bernie says:
sorry
m!ke it's amazing what a boy can do- says:
oh eugene wants to watch that.
bernie says:
koh bernard too (:
mike just took up your time at
2:48 pm
th time!
